Helpful post +_+

This site lets you join interest groups online then meet in real life:
http://www.meetup.com

Anyway,
Many thanks for this article. I really liked your talking to strangers article. Great stuff.

I practiced chatting up strangers at age 19. I rode the bus system and met people at bus stops. 6 months of this served as a social skills intensive. But guys, ya gotta keep this up. I began driving and afterwards, I wasn’t really approaching strangers anymore. Then alot of that newfound confidence faded away.

————– TO AMY: —————–
You’d be seeing a hypnotherapist. I haven’t done this yet but a hypnotherapist told me here’s how social stuff is handled… Once in the hypnotic state, the hypnotherapist uses tools to find the root of your issue. Then you rip out the root together and plug in some new stuff that helps you succeed.

I caution you though not to assume that it will be the one solution that solves it all effortlessly.

I’ve been through enough self-help attempts to know that a magic bullet won’t be found. I must go out there and take action. I won’t ever have it where I get on this golden road and it’s like a straight high speed smooth sailing shot to the finish line. I’ll face rejection. I’ll hit setbacks. But eventually I will reach my goal.

Self hypnosis for example…
- They present it as the easy and effortless cure-all. Feed yourself positive statements in the hypnotic state and they effortlessly sink in and you’re into the wild yonder!

- Then you find out that it’s not as simple as going into the hypnotic state and telling yourself “I am confident and successful”. For one you have to repeat that numerous times. Keep at it and you’ll notice little things like: taking organization more seriously, keeping a slightly better calendar, etc.

- If not results in 2 weeks, you may need to re-word these commands. Each time you must try it for a couple weeks to test them.

- You must TRULY want to change in order for hypnosis to work. If you only want to give up smoking because of nagging family members, that won’t cut it.

- Or perhaps you’ve got some hidden underlyling buried issue that nullifies this hypnotic command. In this case mere repetition isn’t going to help. That will require the help of a professional. So he helps you discover the root and rip it out. Then he puts in beneficial commands…

- Notice how many layers I peeled back. Now it’d be good if the hypno got you this far. But I’m skeptical that it’d be the mythical golden road from here on out. You’d probably still be hesitant to approach strangers. You’d still feel hurt by rejection. You’ll get frustrated with set-backs. At least you’ll have a better mindset.
The top two links have good stuff on magic bullets.

However, rejection is and will always hurt for me. I’m wondering if there is anyway that you can induce hypnosis by the help of someone else. I’ve been able to not care about the situation in my mind. But I’m wondering if I can be hypnotized to not care, you know, get that feeling I have in my mind and reinforce it into my subconscious mind so that I will always have that feeling.

Not sure if any of you guys understand what I mean, but there it is.