Comments on: Women, Relationships, and Happiness

By: Noah from attract women help

Noah from attract women help — Mon, 22 Nov 2010 21:34:04 +0000

simply accept her for how she is, dont try to change her, but at the same time don’t let her rule or control you and everything would go great.
Thanks

By: Billy

Billy — Fri, 04 Dec 2009 04:33:59 +0000

Great article Brad, I’m currently trying to get through the same thing myself. I’m definately gonna read that book. I’ve already read numerous books on being a man and about women and attraction. I’m finding trying to let go of these resentments is one of the hardest things in my life. That’s wierd considering other battles I’ve had to face. It’s reached a boiling point and I’m so angry and confused that I’ve started to get counselling.

By: foo

foo — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 08:46:12 +0000

Most men and women have loose morals. It takes a lot of patience and maturity to stick with one person. If someone doesn’t possess that, I truly feel sorry for them. But hey, the multiple marriages and divorces will surely add some fun, right?

By: Carlyle

Carlyle — Thu, 03 Apr 2008 15:29:09 +0000

Love the blog and posts. From a womans perspective, I am coming from exactly the same place, which astounds me. I didn’t think men really gave relationships much thought– but from what I have read here, we want the same things: individuality and love. I have recently separated after 30 years of marriage. I know how to be a “we” but I am just now learning how to me a “me.” On my way to embracing “me” as enough. I always had to have someone else next to me in order to be “enough.” It’s scary to let go of the security blanket of “we” and stand on my own two feet.
I’m with you guys!

By: Harry

Harry — Thu, 04 Oct 2007 08:07:03 +0000

Very interesting blog, just what i wanted to read, im not sure if its human nature or somethin else but when you ignore someone they’re crazy for you and when you love some one you get crazy for them, ur just giving yourself away, but from what ive learned from my last relationship is that you just cannot trust women, they play with you emotions like a game of chess, maybe its my mistake that i got so close to her that it was hard letting go, it just turns your world up side down when suddenly she says lets just be friends….this too after a 3 year relationship!!!

By: Marti

Marti — Thu, 13 Sep 2007 13:58:14 +0000

I’m probably older than most people reading your blog, and I would like to offer my insight that you have to kiss a lot of frogs (or beauty queens) before you find the prince (or princess). Dating is a process of trying on people, like you would try on a garment. Not everyone you meet, despite their beauty or outward persona, is a good fit.

We all present a social facade, and it takes a bit of digging, and time, to discover the real person beind that facade, and for that person to discover the real you, as well. Most often, that discovery is less than satisfactory, and it is time to move on.

You can’t find ‘the one for you’ until you know yourself, and stop hiding from yourself. Everyone you date, and have a relationship with, is another step on your personal road to self discovery. When you finally know yourself, you will find it easier to sort thru the dross of all those people out there, and hone in immediately on people, or ‘the person’, who is the best fit for you.

Wonderful blog post. Keep writing, and keep on in your personal journey.

By: Alex in Ottawa

Alex in Ottawa — Mon, 27 Aug 2007 18:47:17 +0000

Interesting post. Great referral – Power of Now was awesome. Can help not only in relationships, as you stated, but also in your career, personal and spiritual sides.

Good Talk.

By: Jeff G

Jeff G — Fri, 24 Aug 2007 20:01:52 +0000

Good article and good blog. I think I am at a similar place in my life as you, although I’m just embarking on my journey of really starting to understand relationships and women.

A related issue to this article is what I think of as putting a woman up on a pedestal. I got burned by this quite badly a couple months ago, and I have been trying to learn from the experience. I asked out a woman who I knew professionally but not personally. I was completely enamored with her and I thought of her as ‘out of my league’ from day 1. So I made the mistake you mention in your article of relying entirely on her for my validation and for my happiness.

It comes down to power, and I what I did is that I gave away 100% of the power in the relationship to her right from the start. It didn’t matter what she did – it only mattered why I did. She was the god and I was the sniveling peasant, begging for an audience. So she blew me off a couple times and instead of getting angry at her, I just sort of rolled with punches and kept calling her until it was obvious that she had lost all interest in me.

The right way to handle the situation would have been to tell her that she was out of line and walk away. From what I now know, chances are high that if I had handled things that way, she would have been calling ME up in a few days apologizing and asking me out. And even if she didn’t, it wouldn’t have mattered so much to me.

By: bazztrap

bazztrap — Fri, 24 Aug 2007 19:53:33 +0000

Well “Accepting People to be who they are” is quite vague term. If you are in a relationship, no matter how much one pretends you get influenced by other person. There is definite exchange of energies. Even though it doesn’t affect your ego, your still being transformed. I think its better to be reactive than being initiator of any cause. we are all consumed by our perception of life and all are in struggle to understand right meaning of ourselves. In this process we make decisions which is suited for best of us. Relationship is path where you traverse your next goal and each break up is fork in your path. There are several paths forking out but in the end they all all going down in a Spiral towards our ego. The moment we are close to our ego we would have gained Spirituality. So it all rotates around one’s Ego. Similarly its question of where is your partners Ego in this entire phase and which path has she chosen, in due course are you going to be elevated from your past. There is no definite answer, Maybe it lies in intuitive happiness . I am traversing in one of those paths and each time I am trying to free a soul . A soul which thought this was answer to everything.
Spiral out keep going.

By: Nulli

Nulli — Fri, 24 Aug 2007 00:14:59 +0000

I know what they are and that’s why I prefer escort services.