Comments on: How to Not Care What Other People Think

By: Ed

Ed — Tue, 03 Jan 2012 21:30:41 +0000

Ditto Judy – ended up here much the same way i think. There is something to be said for positive thinking, i just need to stop remembering but continuing to do so.

Nice article, cheers lad.

By: Judy

Judy — Thu, 03 Nov 2011 08:18:40 +0000

Fabulous, not sure exactly how I got here (something to do with researching problem drinking) but thankyou so, so much. And Gav, good on you, I can whole heartedly relate.

By: Marvel

Marvel — Fri, 30 Sep 2011 19:46:28 +0000

YES, YES and YES. I am so glad you have taken the time to share this with all of your readers, and I am even more happy that Google introduced me to your website. I’ve been following it’s rabbit holes and appreciating the goodwill you are sharing.

Now, to implement it! To make sure that voice in my head is a positive one, the one that will be there from the first breath to the last :).

By: Gav

Gav — Sat, 24 Sep 2011 19:32:57 +0000

I like your thoughts. I went through a massive depression due to my confusion with the world and the people in it – I was a good person before but my niceness blindly rejected by a lot of people which hurt. I started to harbour a lot of anger and I punished myself mentally by giving myself a low self-esteem and a low self-image, seeing death as the only way out at one very low point…

but I turned it around, I started philosophising my existence which became my comfort. I started to see light at the end of the tunnel, and I started to see the flaws in other people rather than in myself.

I know I am not perfect but I am a good person, the world is full of imperfect people but don’t let them get you down. Know your own standards and don’t compromise them, if someone does wrong by you then forget about them but don’t let it change you, stay true to your nature.

I believe in Karma, ask the universe for anything and you will get it as long as you have good karma on your side. I am not airy fairy, infact I am a strong person who is capable of anything, but I let people get to me.. pity them but don’t let them bring you down to their level.

Peace.

By: Dimes

Dimes — Sat, 24 Sep 2011 10:50:51 +0000

Inspiring piece of writing that. Agree %100.

By: Peter Y.

Peter Y. — Sat, 21 May 2011 00:06:25 +0000

Great article. It reflects a lot of what I want to experience out of life. I cared less when I was a kid, and that allowed me to experience more.

Now, as a college student, I find I’m caring about things that shouldn’t matter. And that’s keeping me from getting the things I want.

I gotta stop caring!

By: Jacquie

Jacquie — Fri, 08 Apr 2011 03:06:57 +0000

Wow, really well thought out. Great article! Now if only saying was as easy as doing…I really want to not care about what people think because why should I? If I tell this guy in the most straightforward way possible that I like him, whether he reacts positively or negatively, I shouldn’t be bothered that much, life is short and once it’s done, that’s it so anything you do like say hi to that girl in the grocery store as you said, really will not matter so just do whatever makes you happiest

By: cuncon

cuncon — Fri, 28 Jan 2011 03:14:13 +0000

There are a lot to learn from you.
But it does not necessarily mean that everything mentioned in the article is the absolute correct lifestyle that everyone need to follow.
Nice principles, but unfitted lifestyle-for me.
I love the idea that we should not let our emotion controlled by people. But at the same time, I don’t want to be a person who would not give a care about what people think. I love to please people who care about me. I would not spend all my saving on a world trip that I dream of, when my family or my special ones are in need. I can’t just date with any girls I like, because that would hurt my girl.
I learnt from you to “live in the moment”. But I don’t like the idea “live for myself”. My girl can leave me, family can be shattered, friends will be gone… To me, “live in the moment” just doesn’t mean do what I like and ignore others. To me, “live in the moment” would mean “not care that things will be gone” and love them to my best ability, now.
Each have there own culture background and personality. Me, I can’t ignore others, and I know a lot people that’s just like me – I love them.
I think that’s what you call authenticity, isn’t it?

By: Marko

Marko — Mon, 10 Jan 2011 13:23:03 +0000

Nice article man. You rock! hahah.

By: Joe

Joe — Thu, 23 Dec 2010 14:15:12 +0000

This seems to be a problem for many people. If you go to a internet forum such as ‘wrongplanet’, you begin to wonder how many people out there who self-diagnose themselves with Asperger’s Syndrome really just need to follow your advice and take social risks?

For the beginner, would it be best to attend structured events, such as church socials, or common interest meetings (hobbies, education, self-help) where the expectations are more in favor of at least cursory acceptance?

Or would it be better to take on situations where rejection is more likely, such as going to a nightclub, in order to experience and get a handle on the negative feelings, and to develop a thick skin?

I imagine probably both. I also think it would have to be frequent in order to have long term success