Comments on: How to Get People to Like You Without Really Trying

By: Michael

Michael — Tue, 03 Apr 2012 16:51:45 +0000

I like the thought of your article. I really hate myself when I try to change my personality just so someone who doesn’t even matter that much to me will like me. And when that doesn’t work, I get depressed to a point that I question what kind of person I really am.

By: diva

diva — Sat, 18 Feb 2012 14:48:11 +0000

very nice article man…. keep posting

By: Dillen

Dillen — Fri, 13 May 2011 08:28:09 +0000

This article really helps because my friend Helen really does enjoy meeting new people and when we went out to a friend’s party, she did get rejected by a few people who didn’t really want to get to know her quite so well, so instead of keeping her head up and all, she asked if we could call it a night. Reason? Helen is too much of a movie fantic and only relies on what she sees in movies — she doesn’t want to be told that what you see in movies and pretending to be someone you’re not isn’t the way to go. She refuses to be told by someone or me that you just got to be yourself when meeting new people, while out and about.

By: Jordan

Jordan — Sat, 12 Mar 2011 00:34:24 +0000

First of all I AGREE WITH djfj so much! I really get annoyed that people separate genders. It doesn’t matter. It’s not about feminism or sexism. All of it separates gender. I want to be more ambiguous because we’ve grown out of the need for gender structure… Anyways,

I’d have to suggest other options than social polarity. In fact it somewhat goes against my whole bread and butter for life. I really like helping people, mainly just to be happy.
And I have this concept that if more people work to spread love and positivity, then they’ll naturally become happier. Domino affect: you spread happiness to someone else, most likely they will spread it to more people, it grows exponentially and is more likely to get back to you the more you spread.

I think that some people will disagree with this, of course, but it doesn’t mean I have to give up trying. You could apply that sentence to your own hypothesis of social polarity, but it might disprove it ironically. Or at least contradict it.

Your ideas basically take all the hard work and change out of life, and make us sit idly by doing nothing. Some “peaceful Ghandi-ness” is good, but too much would get awfully boring.

By: anne

anne — Fri, 10 Sep 2010 15:43:45 +0000

Hello, I just stumbled upon your blog today and I want to tip my hat to you- I’ve enjoyed reading your posts and find your insights helpful. I know it’s not that big of a deal, but I would like to mention that using the word “girl” can be a little irritating to women over a certain age… I wouldn’t call you “boy,” would I? I know I’m just being picky at that you mean no harm at all, but FYI!

By: Im pale

Im pale — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 22:57:45 +0000

Interesting, very colorful theory, really, thank you for that, but for me it doesn’t looks right. There are many factors that also affect the results of communication: mood, some own thoughts (that could change in a moment), opinions, points of view, stereotypes and so on. It can be just wrong place or time to lower your chances to zero, while your physical, mental or emotional parameters remain the same. I am a lot like you; I try to understand and describe such things, too, and my vision of this problem grew up from another questions that I’d asked myself. Why do the people have good relations with the ones, and bad with the others? Because when someone meets you at the first time, he or she forms the attitude about you. The main part of it is created very fast, about 10-15 seconds as I know. Everything is individual, but still this time is the most important to impress a girl. Any other information will just be a detail of the image already formed, and it takes two times more work to change this image. So if the image is good, the attitude to you will be positive and some bad sides of your person would be taken as they are. So you were right that the girl “already” likes you or not, and almost everything you stated here is true, but still you should understand that image must be right. For example, you act like a friend and girl takes you for friend, but your target was dating. What about me, I try to be authentic and act like I’m talking to my old true friend, not even a girl. If girl is not interested in who I am, I leave her. If she is interested, I just make the atmosphere friendlier and answer her questions. I don’t care about the image, because I show the true self. Fails doesn’t damage me at all because if the girl cannot take me as I am, it is not my fault and nothing can be done in this situation. And the last thing. Be happy. If you don’t love yourself, girls will not love you, too.

By: diamond

diamond — Thu, 24 Jun 2010 21:50:40 +0000

for people to like you.you need to be com.

By: kamogelo

kamogelo — Sat, 27 Jun 2009 16:17:35 +0000

hello my name is kamogelo, am from south africa. i lost both of my parents today. so can you please send me a message that will show me how am i gonna live without them?

By: Porter

Porter — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 07:17:57 +0000

very good article man. thank you

By: AJ Kumar

AJ Kumar — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 07:50:50 +0000

Your list of
emotional
physical
mental
spiritual

should also be the categories of goals one creates for oneself