Comments on: How to Meet Women Without Really Trying http://30sleeps.com/blog/2008/01/05/how-to-meet-women/ Open Source Personal Development Fri, 12 Mar 2010 03:16:51 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Krysta http://30sleeps.com/blog/2008/01/05/how-to-meet-women/comment-page-1/#comment-16103 Krysta Thu, 03 Dec 2009 12:02:02 +0000 http://30sleeps.com/blog/2008/01/05/how-to-meet-women/#comment-16103 Sorry I just realised this post may be a little out of place here, and sorry for the perhaps too autobiographical content. Sorry I just realised this post may be a little out of place here, and sorry for the perhaps too autobiographical content.

]]> By: Krysta http://30sleeps.com/blog/2008/01/05/how-to-meet-women/comment-page-1/#comment-16102 Krysta Thu, 03 Dec 2009 11:59:56 +0000 http://30sleeps.com/blog/2008/01/05/how-to-meet-women/#comment-16102 Hey congratulations on a great article. Although I'm a straight female, this is advice I could really use. I'm 20 years old. As sad as it is to admit I am basically a social recluse and have hit rock bottom myself. I suffer from depression and anxiety, for various reasosn which I won't go into here obviously. I know that you can't be a victim of your circumstances forever, and I'm committed to really working on that. I have only ever been able to get very low end jobs because I feel like that's all I'm capable of. Then if I make any silly little mistake in these jobs I beat myself up about it because I feel like if it's such a scummy easy job I should do it perfectly. At my first job the boss was abusive made me feel pathetic and ruined whatever little self esteem I was trying to preserve. Currently unemployed. I have only a couple of friends who I don't see often. I am failing my college semester. Hardly anyone knows I exist. Life has felt very hopeless for a long time. Approaching guys has always been out of the question. Not sure how my brain would react if I was rejected. I have never had any intimate contact with guys before at all, despite going to a normal school. Strange since people tell me I'm relatively intelligent and good looking. Really need to get my life on the right track. I'm sick of being unproductive and being scared of becoming a worse loser than I already am. Just need a bit of inspiration which I am currently gaining from your website so thank-you lots and I hope to read more articles very soon. K Hey congratulations on a great article. Although I’m a straight female, this is advice I could really use.

I’m 20 years old. As sad as it is to admit I am basically a social recluse and have hit rock bottom myself. I suffer from depression and anxiety, for various reasosn which I won’t go into here obviously. I know that you can’t be a victim of your circumstances forever, and I’m committed to really working on that.

I have only ever been able to get very low end jobs because I feel like that’s all I’m capable of. Then if I make any silly little mistake in these jobs I beat myself up about it because I feel like if it’s such a scummy easy job I should do it perfectly. At my first job the boss was abusive made me feel pathetic and ruined whatever little self esteem I was trying to preserve. Currently unemployed. I have only a couple of friends who I don’t see often. I am failing my college semester. Hardly anyone knows I exist. Life has felt very hopeless for a long time.

Approaching guys has always been out of the question. Not sure how my brain would react if I was rejected. I have never had any intimate contact with guys before at all, despite going to a normal school. Strange since people tell me I’m relatively intelligent and good looking. Really need to get my life on the right track. I’m sick of being unproductive and being scared of becoming a worse loser than I already am. Just need a bit of inspiration which I am currently gaining from your website so thank-you lots and I hope to read more articles very soon.

K

]]> By: Rlead http://30sleeps.com/blog/2008/01/05/how-to-meet-women/comment-page-1/#comment-2920 Rlead Sat, 20 Dec 2008 13:40:55 +0000 http://30sleeps.com/blog/2008/01/05/how-to-meet-women/#comment-2920 There's a few dimensions too being a pickup artist K I'm a break it down like this. - Being confident happy -Understanding women, and being funny, awesome, cool guy that knows how too live life, and enjoys adventure -Listen too women, study there facial gestures, - Being a pyschologist too women in some way, by giving them good advice. - Being fit, sexy looking, proud of who you are. - Having hobbies, that are cool that you can talk too girls about and they get interested. -Body Language -Being a man -Being a great cook/ hostess -Teaching her things, letting her teach you things -Being interested in her life - Letting her know that you have the ability too make her life amazing, and doing that. I think I've covered quite a few aspects of women, so I help that helps you out. I know I've helped myself out, by just reading what I've wrote down here tonight! Peace good luck with Women! There’s

a few dimensions too being a pickup artist K I’m a break it down like this.

- Being confident happy
-Understanding women, and being funny, awesome, cool guy that knows how too live life, and enjoys adventure
-Listen too women, study there facial gestures,

- Being a pyschologist too women in some way, by giving them good advice.
- Being fit, sexy looking, proud of who you are.
- Having hobbies, that are cool that you can talk too girls about and they get interested.
-Body Language
-Being a man
-Being a great cook/ hostess
-Teaching her things, letting her teach you things
-Being interested in her life
- Letting her know that you have the ability too make her life amazing, and doing that.

I think I’ve covered quite a few aspects of women, so I help that helps you out. I know I’ve helped myself out, by just reading what I’ve wrote down here tonight!

Peace good luck with Women!

]]> By: Rlead http://30sleeps.com/blog/2008/01/05/how-to-meet-women/comment-page-1/#comment-2919 Rlead Sat, 20 Dec 2008 13:34:34 +0000 http://30sleeps.com/blog/2008/01/05/how-to-meet-women/#comment-2919 Wherever you go, practice on cashiers. I find it's very easy, and if done well makes you feel good inside. So you go too the liquor persay, and you just say something original(funny) etc, it's all in good fun. Dating doesn't gotta be a serious thing, just having fun. That's where the energies gotta be channeled, so persay your in the worst mood in your life. You gotta channel your energy, and think of how you really are going too enjoy talking t oo this girl, and it's going too make you feel wonderful. Then just don't get sidetracked by getting angry at the world, for all the shit. Just stay with that, your confidence will go up. Wherever you go, practice on cashiers. I find it’s very easy, and if done well makes you feel good inside. So you go too the liquor persay, and you just say something original(funny) etc, it’s all in good fun. Dating doesn’t gotta be a serious thing, just having fun. That’s where the energies gotta be channeled, so persay your in the worst mood in your life. You gotta channel your energy, and think of how you really are going too enjoy talking t oo this girl, and it’s going too make you feel wonderful. Then just don’t get sidetracked by getting angry at the world, for all the shit. Just stay with that, your confidence will go up.

]]> By: Rlead http://30sleeps.com/blog/2008/01/05/how-to-meet-women/comment-page-1/#comment-2918 Rlead Sat, 20 Dec 2008 13:30:00 +0000 http://30sleeps.com/blog/2008/01/05/how-to-meet-women/#comment-2918 Another thing is, trying too blend in with her and her girlfriends,etc. Fit the part, etc a lot of this stuff that I know is true " Kills me Inside" Because it's frecking wack that girls want you too act like that. The fact is you go too a dating site, and girls got this, that, etc on there lists of what they like about a guy. So if you can be a mindreader before you see the girl, and think okay what do you think this girls like. You're better prepared too do your thing, when your talking too her. You know how she reacts, you know her personality. This girl on a dating site has on her pro " I'm the Engine " I'm in search of a great mechanic". So basically she's saying too the world she's a girl, how can you do your magic on me too make my engine( Herself) feel amazing like I want too feel. So analyze that, and realize you gotta understand the whole atmosphere of being around women. Know that maybe you can g et away after talking too her for awhile by touching her arm for a sec, and take it back, then later do it for a bit longer,etc. She needs too get immune too you being in her space. So you gotta work up too the kill, where you want too get into her pants lol. Eye contact= key, focus on her eye contact. Try too understand what she's thinking, focus on your eye contact. How are you looking at her, are you looking happy/bored/etc. Could go soo many ways, these may seem like nothing. But it's the details that can make things get heaty, or turned off. The focus gotta be there, when you set yourself in the room with this girl, focus on nobody being there but the two of you. All you gotta do, is have fun and be a gentleman, and instinct will take over. Another thing is, trying too blend in with her and her girlfriends,etc. Fit the part, etc a lot of this stuff that I know is true ” Kills me Inside” Because it’s frecking wack that girls want you too act like that. The fact is you go too a dating site, and girls got this, that, etc on there lists of what they like about a guy. So if you can be a mindreader before you see the girl, and think okay what do you think this girls like. You’re better prepared too do your thing, when your talking too her. You know how she reacts, you know her personality. This girl on a dating site has on her pro ” I’m the Engine ” I’m in search of a great mechanic”. So basically she’s saying too the world she’s a girl, how can you do your magic on me too make my engine( Herself) feel amazing like I want too feel. So analyze that, and realize you gotta understand the whole atmosphere of being around women. Know that maybe you can g et away after talking too her for awhile by touching her arm for a sec, and take it back, then later do it for a bit longer,etc. She needs too get immune too you being in her space. So you gotta work up too the kill, where you want too get into her pants lol. Eye contact= key, focus on her eye contact. Try too understand what she’s thinking, focus on your eye contact. How are you looking at her, are you looking happy/bored/etc. Could go soo many ways, these may seem like nothing. But it’s the details that can make things get heaty, or turned off. The focus gotta be there, when you set yourself in the room with this girl, focus on nobody being there but the two of you. All you gotta do, is have fun and be a gentleman, and instinct will take over.

]]> By: Rlead http://30sleeps.com/blog/2008/01/05/how-to-meet-women/comment-page-1/#comment-2917 Rlead Sat, 20 Dec 2008 13:17:41 +0000 http://30sleeps.com/blog/2008/01/05/how-to-meet-women/#comment-2917 I agree with the original post. It's hard for me right know, because a lot of the things in my life are pissing me off! I mean if I got a good break here and there, than I'd be a better commodity with women. But the being #$it on in my life making it difficult too rise above, and show my best self. I've been on top of my game before, but sometimes we all get lost in the game. When it's a little more complicated than just what the author wrote. Being a player in life has too do with you being happy with everything your doing in life, staying fit, eating healthy, spending time with POSITIVE PEOPLE ALL THE TIME. Making sure, we're making good decisions that'll affect our womanlife, understanding women and feeling good about yourself. It's about being in the right mindset, everything. If I had the money I'd be a player even in the toughest city in Canada, and no I wouldn't be buying girls stuff. It would just be because I wouldn't be worried about money, and it setting me back you know. I'd have a nice tv room, nice bed, nice couch. Etc, it would be my own oasis, and then before I'm going out somewhere for the night I'd have a shower,stretch do a bit of excercise and feel SEXCELLENT= SExy+ Excellent. Then the babes, just come too you, and your not in a slump. Just a flick of a switch and my world would be completely flipped around in a good way. It's real truth, making your life amazing and taking every opportunity that comes your way. What guy's forget too realize is, guys do all the work talking and trying too meet girls. But girls do subtle things beforehand, if a girl checks you out 95% of the time she's basically saying she wants you too talk too her. But a lot of the time it's too quick that it happens, we can't think right and we walk past the girl and kick ourselves for days. Why because we were afraid, and it's stupid the girl was pretty much just asking too talk too you silently, and you ignored her. Maybe I'm wrong, but I think I'm totally on point with this one. I'm sure a lot of you guys walk past girls that look at you, and you can tell. I agree with the original post. It’s hard for me right know, because a lot of the things in my life are pissing me off! I mean if I got a good break here and there, than I’d be a better commodity with women. But the being #$it on in my life making it difficult too rise above, and show my best self. I’ve been on top of my game before, but sometimes we all get lost in the game. When it’s a little more complicated than just what the author wrote. Being a player in life has too do with you being happy with everything your doing in life, staying fit, eating healthy, spending time with POSITIVE PEOPLE ALL THE TIME. Making sure, we’re making good decisions that’ll affect our womanlife, understanding women and feeling good about yourself. It’s about being in the right mindset, everything. If I had the money I’d be a player even in the toughest city in Canada, and no I wouldn’t be buying girls stuff. It would just be because I wouldn’t be worried about money, and it setting me back you know. I’d have a nice tv room, nice bed, nice couch. Etc, it would be my own oasis, and then before I’m going out somewhere for the night I’d have a shower,stretch do a bit of excercise and feel SEXCELLENT= SExy+ Excellent. Then the babes, just come too you, and your not in a slump. Just a flick of a switch and my world would be completely flipped around in a good way. It’s real truth, making your life amazing and taking every opportunity that comes your way. What guy’s forget too realize is, guys do all the work talking and trying too meet girls. But girls do subtle things beforehand, if a girl checks you out 95% of the time she’s basically saying she wants you too talk too her. But a lot of the time it’s too quick that it happens, we can’t think right and we walk past the girl and kick ourselves for days. Why because we were afraid, and it’s stupid the girl was pretty much just asking too talk too you silently, and you ignored her. Maybe I’m wrong, but I think I’m totally on point with this one. I’m sure a lot of you guys walk past girls that look at you, and you can tell.

]]> By: floyd thomas http://30sleeps.com/blog/2008/01/05/how-to-meet-women/comment-page-1/#comment-2843 floyd thomas Fri, 05 Dec 2008 23:39:03 +0000 http://30sleeps.com/blog/2008/01/05/how-to-meet-women/#comment-2843 iwill find her....acualy there will be know finding at all./my gaurdains will show the way..................................... iwill find her….acualy there will be know finding at all./my gaurdains will show the way……………………………….

]]> By: floyd thomas http://30sleeps.com/blog/2008/01/05/how-to-meet-women/comment-page-1/#comment-2842 floyd thomas Fri, 05 Dec 2008 23:31:31 +0000 http://30sleeps.com/blog/2008/01/05/how-to-meet-women/#comment-2842 I am sincere, I am looking for the ONE..I am what you might say lost in this relm ....I whant to be one with someone.......................... I am sincere, I am looking for the ONE..I am what you might say lost in this relm ….I whant to be one with someone……………………..

]]> By: Sherise http://30sleeps.com/blog/2008/01/05/how-to-meet-women/comment-page-1/#comment-2699 Sherise Sun, 16 Nov 2008 20:01:37 +0000 http://30sleeps.com/blog/2008/01/05/how-to-meet-women/#comment-2699 Jonathan's comment got me thinking. How do you make yourself sound interesting? I think I'm pretty interesting. I'm currently a foreign exchange student in Brazil, born and raised in Miami, barely American in the first place with both parents only recently naturalized, I play the sax, I love art, I draw/sketch a lot, I'm into graphic design, and sometimes I dabble with fiction writing, yet despite all the artsy stuff, I took a few college credit courses in business, computers, and math while in high school. But I never know exactly how to insert these tidbits of myself without sounding completely out of nowhere and way conceited than one needs to be. (A problem which is also giving me hell on these damned college application essays.) Jonathan’s comment got me thinking. How do you make yourself sound interesting?

I think I’m pretty interesting. I’m currently a foreign exchange student in Brazil, born and raised in Miami, barely American in the first place with both parents only recently naturalized, I play the sax, I love art, I draw/sketch a lot, I’m into graphic design, and sometimes I dabble with fiction writing, yet despite all the artsy stuff, I took a few college credit courses in business, computers, and math while in high school. But I never know exactly how to insert these tidbits of myself without sounding completely out of nowhere and way conceited than one needs to be. (A problem which is also giving me hell on these damned college application essays.)

]]> By: Parth Sharma http://30sleeps.com/blog/2008/01/05/how-to-meet-women/comment-page-1/#comment-2691 Parth Sharma Sun, 16 Nov 2008 03:14:26 +0000 http://30sleeps.com/blog/2008/01/05/how-to-meet-women/#comment-2691 Hi Mate, I have really important to raise with - I wish I was an english/irish guy so that way women would be more receptive to me.They usually take one look and run - no I am disfiguresd or anything like that - I am asian but I must be quite destestable that they think that way??/ The thing with me bing very westernised I prefer English women - I wish they would get to know me better but I don't get a chance - time for me to become monk? Hi Mate,

I have really important to raise with – I wish I was an english/irish guy so that way women would be more receptive to me.They usually take one look and run – no I am disfiguresd or anything like that – I am asian but I must be quite destestable that they think that way??/

The thing with me bing very westernised I prefer English women – I wish they would get to know me better but I don’t get a chance – time for me to become monk?

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