The world bursts at the seams with people ready to tell you you’re not good enough. On occasion some may be correct. But do not do their work for them. Seek any job; ask anyone out; pursue any goal. Don’t take it personally when they say “no” – they may not be smart enough to [...]

The advantage of the emotions is that they lead us astray.
– Oscar Wilde
A while back I read a book called Real-Time Relationships, by Stefan Molyneux. It’s a book about creating relationships that are healthy, enjoyable, loving, and virtuous. The author hosts a philosophy podcast called Freedomain Radio, which deals with everything from overcoming procrastination and [...]

The networking that matters is helping people achieve their goals. Doing it reliably and repeatedly so that over time people have an interest in helping you achieve your goals, because they have a stake in it.
– Seth Godin
I wouldn’t call myself an introvert, but I am definitely a not-extrovert. I am reasonably good at meeting [...]

If you got the skin to be rejected 800 times in a row, 801 is gonna be a crazy play.
– Social Media Entrepreneur Gary Vaynerchuk, describing the Hot Girl Rule (~45:10)
Having travelled and moved around a lot in the past several years, I’ve been through a number of social resets. I like exploring the [...]

A common recipe for personal growth is to start with what you have, identify what sucks about it, and try to make it suck less. Software developers call this “fixing bugs.”
“Fixing bugs” may seem like a natural metaphor for personal development, but in most cases this is actually an extremely limited, even harmful, perspective. [...]

Honesty is the first chapter of the book of wisdom.
– Thomas Jefferson
Deception is cancerous. The first mutation of a truth charts a path to colonize its host. One fib demands another, two lies need the proof of two more, until eventually even the most innocent half-truth metastasizes into a falsehood requiring surgery.
A lie is a [...]

It’s not who you are that holds you back, it’s who you think you’re not.
– Author Unknown
If your primary goal in life is to meet an amazing woman, you probably won’t.
Setting out on a mission to find a girlfriend is like starting a company to get rich: It focusses you on the wrong things and [...]

You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.
– Dale Carnegie
Positive relationships are the foundation of an interesting life.
Regular readers of my blog know that I advocate talking to strangers as a fantastic way of [...]

Flow with whatever is happening and let your mind be free. Stay centered by accepting whatever you are doing. This is the ultimate.
– Chuang Tzu
95% of everything you’ll ever need to know about meeting women can be summed up in four words: Go with the flow. Instead of trying to meet girls, focus entirely on [...]

This article talks a lot about my philosophy of success with women in general, so even if you have no interest in meeting girls online, you may still find it helpful.
I’ve already written about the pros and cons of online dating. One of the things I talked about in that article was the myth that [...]