Articles about Lifestyle Design

by Brad Bollenbach

I’m not a big fan of employment. I haven’t had a “job” in three and a half years. But I also realize that entrepreneurship doesn’t make sense for everyone. Even for those pursuing the dream of starting a business, You Gotta Start Somewhere (TM) and that usually means working for someone else. Some people even [...]



by Brad Bollenbach

I would never die for my beliefs because I might be wrong.
– Bertrand Russell
A belief system is like an API for personal growth.
“API” is computer geek speak for Application Programming Interface. It refers to the set of abstractions on which a piece of software is built. Ruby on Rails, for example, provides an API atop [...]



by Brad Bollenbach

It’s one of the most common questions a consulting newbie asks: How much should I charge?
I was a software consultant for three and a half years. First I was into Plone, then I worked on a big Zope 3 project, and more recently I’ve done some Rails stuff. I still do the odd gig here [...]



by Brad Bollenbach

Do, or do not. There is no ‘try’.
– Yoda
You’re thinking about starting a business.
You want to travel the world some day.
“If I were your age”, you tell your daughter, “I’d get out of this town too.”
You would have gotten that girl’s phone number, but then her friend came and whisked her away.
You could have kissed [...]



by Brad Bollenbach

I am much better employed from every point of view, when I live solely for my own satisfaction, than when I begin to worry about the world. The world frightens me, and a frightened man is no good for anything.
– George Gissing
Wow. That girl who just walked over to the frozen food section is [...]



by Brad Bollenbach

If you could live anywhere in the world, would you be living where you are now? If you were born in Tokyo, London, New York, Paris, Amsterdam, Sydney, Rio de Janeiro, Rome or one of the world’s other great cities, would you save up and move to the city in which you currently live? Are [...]



by Brad Bollenbach

Don’t ask yourself what the world needs; ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go and do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.
– Howard Thurman
Life is meant to be an adventure. If your life is anything less than interesting and inspiring to other people, you’re doing something [...]



by Brad Bollenbach

I really wish I was less of a thinking man and more of a fool not afraid of rejection.
– Billy Joel

You aren’t attractive enough. You aren’t smart enough. You aren’t cool enough. You aren’t man enough. Your idea won’t work. You’re too short. You’re too tall. You’re too chunky. You don’t have enough money. I [...]



by Brad Bollenbach

In Part I of this two-part series, I discussed my own discovery of, and initial experiences in, the seduction community.
In this article, I’ll talk more about a typical night in the field, the experiences I had with some of the women I met while sarging, and mix in some lessons I learned about women that [...]



by Brad Bollenbach

Though this blog is intended to cover a wide range of life hacking topics in the realm of health, wealth, and relationships, for both men and women, there’s at least one more subject I want to cover while we’re still on the theme of getting better with women.

When it comes to pursuing something that interests [...]